Creating Healthy, Intimate & Fulfilling Relationships

Hi,
I’m 47 with two children and I’m dating a man who is 45 (no children). We are both divorced and both of us have been out of those prior relationships for over 3 years. We started dating about 4 months ago and we see each other about 4 to 5 times per week. Things have moved very quickly, so much so that he asked me this past weekend to marry him. I said “yes.”

We both love each other, we have similar visions for our lives and we’ve been fortunate to both have completed relationship classes with two different RCI coaches. We seem compatible in all aspects. We feel we’re being conscious singles because we’ve done the work.

Are we moving to fast? Do you think we may be missing something? We’re not inexperienced in relationships, but at the same time we want to make sure we’re seeing things clearly. Do you have any advice for us?

Together in Toronto

Dear Together:

It sounds like you have been very conscious about screening and testing each other to make certain you are compatible. Kudos to you both! Conscious Dating really works and it is always good to see it in action.

Rather than give advice I'd like you to ask yourselves "What is the rush to get married?" In my opinion and experience, four months is not enough time to get to know someone and test for all your requirements. Because of your experience with the Conscious Dating principles you have an advantage over most couples. You understand you are still in the first flush of 'falling in love' AND you know how to navigate the traps. Use your knowledge wisely and make this the best relationship choice you have ever made. You have the makings of an amazing relationship. If that requires waiting a few months, isn't it worth the wait?

This is the perfect opportunity to work with an RCI (Relationship Coaching Institute) coach who can help you dig a little deeper, get further clarity about your relationship and decide how to best move forward.

I wish you much happiness and love!

Frankie