Batting Average is Zero
Frankie:
How effective is speed dating ? I've gone three times and each time came up empty. Without sounding conceited, I thought I was in the top 5 at each event in the looks and interesting departments. At each event, I checked at least 3 women. My batting average is zero. What are the chances that there would be no hits? Is this common? Do you know the statistics? Just about every woman at the event said it was their first time but most of the guys I smoozed with said they had done it before. Do the women lie or do they try it once and not bother filling out the match form?
Carlos
Carlos:
Singles events can be hit and miss – you just never know whether you’ll meet ‘the one’. So it is best to go to these events without a lot of expectations – simply try to have fun and practice your dating skills (opening gambits, flirting, closing, etc.).
The best advice I can give you is to cast your net wide by putting yourself into all types of situations where you will meet other singles - but understand that if your goal is to meet a 'qualified' potential partner, your likelihood of success will vary dependant upon the venue you select. Speed Dating is a Level II attraction venue, as explained below:
Level 1: Public places like supermarkets, wine festivals, flea markets, etc., with a large number of people, but with a slim to zero chance of finding someone suitable.
Level 2: Generic singles settings such as online dating sites, singles bars, speed dating, clubs and events, or personal ads, etc. While your odds increase because you have an opportunity to meet singles in one location, finding qualified partners is still a challenge. The only thing you may have in common is that you are single.
Level 3: Settings in which you share a strong interest with other attendees, like a ski club, fitness class, hiking club, theatre group, dance classes, etc., are great for making friends and provide an opportunity to meet a like minded partner, either directly or through a newly formed friendship. As you widen your circle of friends you have a greater likelihood of connecting with their friends, one of whom may be a perfect match for you.
Level 4: Settings in which you share important values, goals or passions can often be the best venues to meet someone who has the same requirements and view of life. Church groups, service organizations, volunteering, personal growth workshops, etc., are environments that help us focus on our values and understanding of what is important in our lives. When you meet someone who is running on a parallel track to yours, you know you share essential values. As with Level 3 groups, widening your circle of these friends could provide you with an introduction to your life partner.
In summary, go out there and keep your eyes open – knowing you may have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess.
How effective is speed dating ? I've gone three times and each time came up empty. Without sounding conceited, I thought I was in the top 5 at each event in the looks and interesting departments. At each event, I checked at least 3 women. My batting average is zero. What are the chances that there would be no hits? Is this common? Do you know the statistics? Just about every woman at the event said it was their first time but most of the guys I smoozed with said they had done it before. Do the women lie or do they try it once and not bother filling out the match form?
Carlos
Carlos:
Singles events can be hit and miss – you just never know whether you’ll meet ‘the one’. So it is best to go to these events without a lot of expectations – simply try to have fun and practice your dating skills (opening gambits, flirting, closing, etc.).
The best advice I can give you is to cast your net wide by putting yourself into all types of situations where you will meet other singles - but understand that if your goal is to meet a 'qualified' potential partner, your likelihood of success will vary dependant upon the venue you select. Speed Dating is a Level II attraction venue, as explained below:
Level 1: Public places like supermarkets, wine festivals, flea markets, etc., with a large number of people, but with a slim to zero chance of finding someone suitable.
Level 2: Generic singles settings such as online dating sites, singles bars, speed dating, clubs and events, or personal ads, etc. While your odds increase because you have an opportunity to meet singles in one location, finding qualified partners is still a challenge. The only thing you may have in common is that you are single.
Level 3: Settings in which you share a strong interest with other attendees, like a ski club, fitness class, hiking club, theatre group, dance classes, etc., are great for making friends and provide an opportunity to meet a like minded partner, either directly or through a newly formed friendship. As you widen your circle of friends you have a greater likelihood of connecting with their friends, one of whom may be a perfect match for you.
Level 4: Settings in which you share important values, goals or passions can often be the best venues to meet someone who has the same requirements and view of life. Church groups, service organizations, volunteering, personal growth workshops, etc., are environments that help us focus on our values and understanding of what is important in our lives. When you meet someone who is running on a parallel track to yours, you know you share essential values. As with Level 3 groups, widening your circle of these friends could provide you with an introduction to your life partner.
In summary, go out there and keep your eyes open – knowing you may have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your princess.
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