Rushing to Meet the Parents
I’m a single guy, 35 years old and am definitely interested in getting married in the next couple of years. I’ve been dating this really nice woman, single, 31 years old, for about three months. I really like her and think she might be "the one". We share many common interests, have similar future plans, and we have a great time together. I like her and want to get to know her better.
But, I have one big problem. She’s always talking about her family, how great they are, and tells me about the nice times she has visiting with them when she’s not with me. They actually only live a couple miles from her home.
The weird thing is that she has never once asked me to attend a family event with her so that I could meet them. I talked to her about this, but she didn’t seem really engaged in the conversation and merely says, "it’s too early in the relationship to introduce you to them." Is this a "red flag"?
Is there something wrong when someone doesn’t introduce you to their family or should I just give her more time? I think three months of dating is plenty of time to qualify for "meeting the parents." What do you think?
Brad
Brad:
Your girlfriend has made it very clear that in her opinion it is too early to introduce you to her family. From your perspective you feel the time is right -- but it isn't up to you, is it?
If you want any possibility of a future with her don't push this issue. She isn't ready: she is still determining whether you are the 'one' for her. Pay attention and respect her wishes.
Continue to get to know her and practice patience. The silver lining is that when you do get the invitation to meet her family it will be because she sees you as the special man in her life. Isn't that worth waiting for?
Frankie
But, I have one big problem. She’s always talking about her family, how great they are, and tells me about the nice times she has visiting with them when she’s not with me. They actually only live a couple miles from her home.
The weird thing is that she has never once asked me to attend a family event with her so that I could meet them. I talked to her about this, but she didn’t seem really engaged in the conversation and merely says, "it’s too early in the relationship to introduce you to them." Is this a "red flag"?
Is there something wrong when someone doesn’t introduce you to their family or should I just give her more time? I think three months of dating is plenty of time to qualify for "meeting the parents." What do you think?
Brad
Brad:
Your girlfriend has made it very clear that in her opinion it is too early to introduce you to her family. From your perspective you feel the time is right -- but it isn't up to you, is it?
If you want any possibility of a future with her don't push this issue. She isn't ready: she is still determining whether you are the 'one' for her. Pay attention and respect her wishes.
Continue to get to know her and practice patience. The silver lining is that when you do get the invitation to meet her family it will be because she sees you as the special man in her life. Isn't that worth waiting for?
Frankie
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