Hold Out for the Love you Deserve
Dear Frankie
For the past two years I have been involved with a guy who is 8 yrs my junior. We have had a lot of good times, but for the past year, we have had more rough patches than anything else.
He doesn't show affection or emotions very often, and that makes me mad. I'm the opposite. I show love all the time and go great lengths to be with him. He has a bad tendency to make me feel less of a person - he has said to me three times to date that he is not attracted to me. An apology has followed each time and i have gone back to a rocky relationship. Of late I have begun to feel very unhappy. We split 6 weeks ago, after a fight and since then he has stated that we are on a break and although i have asked to move on, he keeps saying if that is what you want then go. I keep changing my mind each time and long for him to come back.
Last week he came to visit with a belated birthday gift and left the next morning.
Our intimate moments are very bland. He doesn't enjoy intimacy and sex with him is not enjoyable.
Still I have continued to be patient and blamed his lack of interest on his work and school issues.
As for me I know I'm very personable, and can get any other man I choose. Yet I want this loser. He isn't at all what I would want to be like if I were a man.
Still I forgive him for his mean words - but he continues to be more selfish.
What should I do?
Regards
G
Dear G:
You are holding onto someone who doesn't appear to be fulfilling any of your needs. In addition, he treats you poorly.
As long as you are tied to this man, you won't be available for the relationship you truly want.
You deserve a man who thinks you are amazing; who treats you with respect and caring; who makes you feel alive, cherished and loved. Don't settle for less.
Do you really need me to tell you what you should do?
Frankie
For the past two years I have been involved with a guy who is 8 yrs my junior. We have had a lot of good times, but for the past year, we have had more rough patches than anything else.
He doesn't show affection or emotions very often, and that makes me mad. I'm the opposite. I show love all the time and go great lengths to be with him. He has a bad tendency to make me feel less of a person - he has said to me three times to date that he is not attracted to me. An apology has followed each time and i have gone back to a rocky relationship. Of late I have begun to feel very unhappy. We split 6 weeks ago, after a fight and since then he has stated that we are on a break and although i have asked to move on, he keeps saying if that is what you want then go. I keep changing my mind each time and long for him to come back.
Last week he came to visit with a belated birthday gift and left the next morning.
Our intimate moments are very bland. He doesn't enjoy intimacy and sex with him is not enjoyable.
Still I have continued to be patient and blamed his lack of interest on his work and school issues.
As for me I know I'm very personable, and can get any other man I choose. Yet I want this loser. He isn't at all what I would want to be like if I were a man.
Still I forgive him for his mean words - but he continues to be more selfish.
What should I do?
Regards
G
Dear G:
You are holding onto someone who doesn't appear to be fulfilling any of your needs. In addition, he treats you poorly.
As long as you are tied to this man, you won't be available for the relationship you truly want.
You deserve a man who thinks you are amazing; who treats you with respect and caring; who makes you feel alive, cherished and loved. Don't settle for less.
Do you really need me to tell you what you should do?
Frankie
1 Comments:
G, i think that people's ultimate subconscious goal is to be right...so my question to you is: what are you trying to prove right about yourself that has you want this man in your life?
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